Category Archives for Love Relationships

Escape from the Prison of Your Thoughts

My wife and I live in Maine.  It’s a beautiful state, and the weather in the summer is usually gorgeous – mid seventies, not too humid.  This year, not so much.  It has been rather cold

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Want a Love that Lasts? Be Yourself and Love Yourself

The dynamics of relationships can be very strange. First, you meet someone and find him very attractive. He finds you attractive. What he initially sees and finds attractive is usually you being yourself. So

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Stoke the Marriage Flames with Mystery Dates and Trips

My husband Eric recently marked our shared calendar “Mystery Date.” I notice it and start to wonder.  Where are we going? I won’t know until we get there, although he will give me some instructions,

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In Relationships, You Reap What You Sow

It really is true.  We get out of a relationship what we put into it. All relationships, be they with your spouse, children, parents, coworkers or friends. My marriage is fantastic! It hasn’t always

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Make Your Marriage a Negativity-Free Zone

When you are cranky or frustrated, do you blame someone else, like your spouse? Do you avoid intimacy or working out conflict by spending too much time on Facebook, watching a lot of television, doing

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Kind Speech is the Glue that Keeps Love Alive

How do you talk to your spouse? Do you speak as kindly as you would like to be spoken to most of the time? Or do you take him for granted and treat him like someone who isn’t very important? Really

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Watch Your Love Soar With Daily Caring Deeds

I was coaching a client this morning by telephone, when his wife walked into his office. She thought he didn’t have time for breakfast, so she brought him a bagel and coffee. I thought that was so

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Is Emotional Infidelity Worse Than A Physical Affair?

The media depicts a world where married couples seem incapable of being faithful to one another. It is a world in which lying to someone you love and cheating is glorified, sexy and exciting, while the

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Great Spouses Aren’t Selfish–8 Ways to Overcome it

Over the next few months, I’ll be writing about personality traits and habits that can make a marriage succeed or fail.  This week’s post is about selfishness. When we are teenagers, we tend

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Closeness and Conflict Resolution

There is a wealth of evidence that having close, loving relationships is crucial to our well-being and happiness. Researchers have found that people with strong social connections have less stress-related

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If You Want Security in Your Relationship, Trust Works Better Than Control

I was listening to a fascinating TED talk with Ricardo Semler*, and he said something that really resonated with me and got me thinking.  “The idea that having control generates security is a very

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Conflict Avoidance in Marriage–A Sure Road to Unhappiness

Since 1992, I have worked as a mediator helping people to resolve conflict through constructive conversation. As both a mediator and life coach, I help people express and analyze their feelings and look

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Why NOT Fall in Love This Valentine’s Day?

What could possibly be wrong with a holiday that celebrates LOVE? I’ve been a fan of Valentine’s Day since I was a kid. I liked decorating shoeboxes and getting those goofy little punch out

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Real Love Versus Infatuation

So many people have no idea that real love and infatuation are two very different things. It is therefore no wonder that so many marriages fail because they are entered into during the infatuation period

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