Managing Your Inner Voice is Key to Losing Weight

Managing Your Inner Voice is Key to Losing Weight | Weight Loss for Foodies

You know that little voice in your head? The one that says things like: 

“Go ahead and eat those cookies! I deserve them!” 

And then after you eat the cookies, the voice says: “I can’t believe I ate that! I’ve blown my diet again! Well, I might as well eat that bag of chips, too. I mean, I’ve already botched the day!” 

And then the voice might even say mean things like: “I can’t believe what an idiot I am! I can’t lose weightI’ll always be fat. I’m such a loser!” 

The voice tells you to do things that aren’t in your own self-interest. 

It’s the voice of bad advice, judgment and shame. The voice of your inner mean girl 

Then sometimes that voice taps into your diet brain. It says things like: 

“I might as well admit that I’m addicted to food. I just can’t trust myself around sugar and salty crunchy things. My only choice is to resolve to stop eating them once and for all! No more chips, cookies, chocolate, or any of that stuff.” 

The voice of diet and deprivation. The voice that says you don’t deserve. You aren’t good enough. Well, it is lying! 

What are these voices anyway 

They’re just thoughts inside your head. Everyone has tens of thousands of thoughts every day.  

The good news is that you can choose what to do with those thoughts. You don’t have to obey them. You don’t have to believe them. In fact, often those thoughts aren’t true and you shouldn’t believe them! 

Managing Your Inner Voice is Key to Losing Weight | Weight Loss for Foodies

To lose weight, it is necessary to stop thinking that those thoughts are who you are. They aren’t! They’re just your thoughts. 

Here’s what I mean. Have you ever had a nasty thought, wishing something bad would happen to someone who made you angry? Then you felt awful for having that thought? You chose not to act on it. You do that many times every day without even realizing it! We all do. To quote Albus Dumbledore, “It is our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are . . .”   

The truth is, as long as you believe those thoughts and do what they tell you, you will not lose weight and keep it off.  

You need to learn how to distinguish between your intelligent, productive thoughts, and your inner mean girl thoughts. Then you can make choices about which voices to trust. 

You can choose not to act on what those voices are saying. 

Here’s how to manage the nasty voice and turn it into something that will make your life better:

  1. When you hear that voice, stop and notice what it is saying. Pretend that you’ve stepped outside your body and are observing you thinking those thoughts. Is it your inner mean girl speaking? 
  2. Know that the voice is not you. It isn’t who you are. It is just a thought you’re thinking.  
  3. Question it. Is eating cookies right now when you aren’t hungry really something that you deserve? Is rewarding yourself with food what you want to be doing, or do you really deserve to take better care of your health? Maybe you’d really like to eat one of those cookies, so you choose to eat lightly at lunch, then have a cookie for dessert and eat it mindfully.  
  4. Talk back to it. You can do this in any number of ways. The most basic is, “Back off! Go away! Leave me alone.” Or you can say, “I think you’re saying these things because you’re hurting. What’s wrong? What needs attention that is making you turn to food?” 
  5. Think about why you really want to eat cookies now. Because you think you have too much work to do? Your child missed the bus again and you have to get dressed and drive her to schoolYour computer crashed? Whatever it is, if the problem isn’t hunger, food won’t fix it. Recognize that and decide not to eat right now. Think about what will fix the problem or prevent it from reoccurring, and take action in that direction 
  6. Take care of yourself in a way that doesn’t involve eating. Meditate or relax for a few minutes with a magazine or book. Think about three things you’re grateful for. List five things you love about yourself or your life. Make a list of the ways you can take care of yourself without eating, and refer to it when you want to eat but aren’t hungry or you want to reward yourself with food. 

Are you ready to change your thinking and your body for good? My free Freedom from Emotional Eating Challenge is a great place to start! Learn how to live and eat like a naturally thin person while you lose the weight. Sign up HERE. 

About the Author Shari Broder

I work with smart women who want to lose weight and keep it off. I help them discover what is really causing their weight problem, fix it at the source, and teach them how to enjoy the foods they love while permanently losing their desire to overeat along with their excess weight. I'd love to teach my method to you! I’m also a gourmet cook and baker who struggled with my weight for 40 years before discovering the secret to not overeating.

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