You know that little voice in your head? The one that says things like:
“Go ahead and eat those cookies! I deserve them!”
And then after you eat the cookies, the voice says: “I can’t believe I ate that! I’ve blown my diet again! Well, I might as well eat that bag of chips, too. I mean, I’ve already botched the day!”
And then the voice might even say mean things like: “I can’t believe what an idiot I am! I can’t lose weight. I’ll always be fat. I’m such a loser!”
The voice tells you to do things that aren’t in your own self-interest.
It’s the voice of bad advice, judgment and shame. The voice of your inner mean girl.
Then sometimes that voice taps into your diet brain. It says things like:
“I might as well admit that I’m addicted to food. I just can’t trust myself around sugar and salty crunchy things. My only choice is to resolve to stop eating them once and for all! No more chips, cookies, chocolate, or any of that stuff.”
The voice of diet and deprivation. The voice that says you don’t deserve. You aren’t good enough. Well, it is lying!
They’re just thoughts inside your head. Everyone has tens of thousands of thoughts every day.
The good news is that you can choose what to do with those thoughts. You don’t have to obey them. You don’t have to believe them. In fact, often those thoughts aren’t true and you shouldn’t believe them!
To lose weight, it is necessary to stop thinking that those thoughts are who you are. They aren’t! They’re just your thoughts.
Here’s what I mean. Have you ever had a nasty thought, wishing something bad would happen to someone who made you angry? Then you felt awful for having that thought? You chose not to act on it. You do that many times every day without even realizing it! We all do. To quote Albus Dumbledore, “It is our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are . . .”
The truth is, as long as you believe those thoughts and do what they tell you, you will not lose weight and keep it off.
You need to learn how to distinguish between your intelligent, productive thoughts, and your inner mean girl thoughts. Then you can make choices about which voices to trust.
You can choose not to act on what those voices are saying.
I work with smart women who want to lose weight and keep it off. I help them discover what is really causing their weight problem, fix it at the source, and teach them how to enjoy the foods they love while permanently losing their desire to overeat along with their excess weight. I'd love to teach my method to you! I’m also a gourmet cook and baker who struggled with my weight for 40 years before discovering the secret to not overeating.