Why NOT Fall in Love This Valentine’s Day?

fall in love this valentine's day

What could possibly be wrong with a holiday that celebrates LOVE?

I’ve been a fan of Valentine’s Day since I was a kid. I liked decorating shoeboxes and getting those goofy little punch out cards from my friends.  Even if you have bad memories of the cute little red haired girl not giving you a Valentine, I urge you to reconsider.

For me, Valentine’s Day has always been about showing the people I love that I care about them.  I haven’t seen a bumper sticker yet that says, “Valentine’s Day is for Lovers” and there is no reason to believe that you can’t celebrate if you are unattached.  How about your parents, children, friends, cousins, the neighbor who helped you shovel your driveway? Wouldn’t it feel good to show them you are thinking of them?

I have never purchased a dozen red roses on Valentine’s Day, and rarely have bought the big red heart-shaped box of chocolates with a big bow in the front.  I have bought lots of chocolates, however, but why bother paying for the gaudy packaging? If you purchase the more subdued packaging ahead of Valentine’s Day, you don’t have to pay a premium, either.

A tradition I started many years ago was hiding chocolate hearts in everyday objects so my family would find them throughout Valentine’s Day tucked into a pair of socks, their guitar case, or when reaching into a coat pocket.  Everyone loves this and looks forward to it!  I love the Lake Champlain Chocolate hearts the best. It is a tradition that doesn’t cost much, but is fun and delicious! Plus sometimes people don’t find all of the hearts, and months later, when looking into a pocket of a backpack, there will be a yummy chocolate treat. Unfortunately, one of these hearts found its way into the wash once, but that is another matter . . .

Usually, I bake something delicious for my family.  Today, I’m making challah. I sent my daughter in Chicago a gift card to one of her favorite restaurants.  I have bought my daughters and mother clothing in the past, pretty underwear or jewelry, and I never limit myself to the traditional gifts. Because we are expecting to get socked in with the umpteenth blizzard of the season (I live in New England), I abandoned the plans to go to a concert, so we will have a quiet evening at home with a delicious, home cooked meal and a decadent chocolate dessert.

What I don’t understand is why some people hate Valentine’s Day.

Some claim they don’t like the florist and candy industries telling them what to do.  Do they not celebrate Christmas? Thanksgiving? Halloween? Nothing is more heavily marketed than Christmas!  That excuse is a load of baloney because we can celebrate Valentine’s Day without giving Hallmark one cent.

I know some people who use that excuse because they just don’t like showing that they care or are just tightwads. Or maybe your heard your dad, who was not the most outwardly caring husband or father, recite the “Hallmark holiday” thing, so it became your belief too.  I urge you to question it now.

Also, some people don’t like Valentine’s Day because they believe it is for lovers.  Why? Just because it is Valentine’s Day doesn’t mean you have to limit it to one kind of love! If you think about Valentine’s Day as a way to show love to various people in your life, you won’t associate it with your current romantic status.  You can still have fun and do something caring for others, and feel good about it instead of moping about being single.

If you are still too contrary to celebrate love on Valentine’s Day, then don’t!  But don’t forget to show the people you love that you care about them at other random times throughout the year!

This year, how about losing the limiting beliefs about Valentine’s Day? It is never too late to start celebrating love!

About the Author Shari Broder

I work with smart women who want to lose weight and keep it off. I help them discover what is really causing their weight problem, fix it at the source, and teach them how to enjoy the foods they love while permanently losing their desire to overeat along with their excess weight. I'd love to teach my method to you! I’m also a gourmet cook and baker who struggled with my weight for 40 years before discovering the secret to not overeating.

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