Escape from the Prison of Your Thoughts

My wife and I live in Maine.  It’s a beautiful state, and the weather in the summer is usually gorgeous – mid seventies, not too humid.  This year, not so

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Want a Love that Lasts? Be Yourself and Love Yourself

The dynamics of relationships can be very strange. First, you meet someone and find him very attractive. He finds you attractive. What he initially sees and finds attractive

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Stoke the Marriage Flames with Mystery Dates and Trips

My husband Eric recently marked our shared calendar “Mystery Date.” I notice it and start to wonder.  Where are we going? I won’t know until we get there, although

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In Relationships, You Reap What You Sow

It really is true.  We get out of a relationship what we put into it. All relationships, be they with your spouse, children, parents, coworkers or friends. My marriage

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Make Your Marriage a Negativity-Free Zone

When you are cranky or frustrated, do you blame someone else, like your spouse? Do you avoid intimacy or working out conflict by spending too much time on

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Kind Speech is the Glue that Keeps Love Alive

How do you talk to your spouse? Do you speak as kindly as you would like to be spoken to most of the time? Or do you take

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Watch Your Love Soar With Daily Caring Deeds

I was coaching a client this morning by telephone, when his wife walked into his office. She thought he didn’t have time for breakfast, so she brought him

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Is Emotional Infidelity Worse Than A Physical Affair?

The media depicts a world where married couples seem incapable of being faithful to one another. It is a world in which lying to someone you love and

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Great Spouses Aren’t Selfish–8 Ways to Overcome it

Over the next few months, I’ll be writing about personality traits and habits that can make a marriage succeed or fail.  This week’s post is about selfishness. When we

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Closeness and Conflict Resolution

There is a wealth of evidence that having close, loving relationships is crucial to our well-being and happiness. Researchers have found that people with strong social connections have

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