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How to Turn Off the Warning Sirens
There is nothing I have ever done in my life that has made me feel as vulnerable as becoming a mother. Not even falling in love. As parents, we are pretty much constantly concerned about the wellbeing
Continue readingLove Being the Peach
I love that quote circulating the Internet that says something like “you can be the sweetest, juiciest peach in the world, but there will always be someone who doesn’t like peaches.” I think
Continue readingCloseness and Conflict Resolution
There is a wealth of evidence that having close, loving relationships is crucial to our well-being and happiness. Researchers have found that people with strong social connections have less stress-related
Continue readingAs Rafiki said, “Change is Good!”
I saw a bumper sticker on my morning walk which said, “If you can’t change your mind, are you sure you have one?” Do you ever say, in a resigned voice, “That’s just the way I am?” Do
Continue readingCome Down From Your Helicopter!
By now, most people have heard the term “helicopter parenting.” It refers to parents who hover over their children as much as possible, and do things for their children that their children are capable
Continue readingQuestioning Rules
I’ll confess at the outset that I am not a fan of rules. I realize that sometimes they are necessary to solve a problem or to create a boundary. They also establish values for a society. But do you unquestioningly
Continue readingWe Become Old When We Stop Having Goals
Today, I had one of those moments when I had to face the possibility that I might not be able to do something I have my heart set on doing. To celebrate turning 60, I really wanted to hike Wainwright’s
Continue readingIf You Want Security in Your Relationship, Trust Works Better Than Control
I was listening to a fascinating TED talk with Ricardo Semler*, and he said something that really resonated with me and got me thinking. “The idea that having control generates security is a very
Continue readingThink You Can’t Change? Think Again!
Some people believe they can’t change. They are just a certain way, and believe they have no control over this. These people have what Carol Dweck, a Stanford psychologist, would call
Continue readingManage Expectations for a Healthy, Loving Relationship With Your Daughter
One of the things I hear mothers of adult daughters talk about a lot is their expectations. Whether we voice them or not, we all have hopes and expectations for our daughters, both big things and little
Continue readingYou Can’t Teach Your Kids What You Don’t Know
Sometimes being a parent can be so overwhelming. We want to be the best possible parent, but we make that a higher priority than being the best possible person. We give our kids lots of love and
Continue readingMothers and Daughters: Criticism and Acceptance
The single biggest complaint daughters have about their moms is, “She’s always criticizing me.” If you are a mom, you may be thinking, “I can’t open my mouth because my daughter takes
Continue readingDon’t Believe Everything You Think!
How do you think about yourself? Is your opinion of yourself based upon who you really are? Or on what your parents, friends or relatives told you as a child? Or the story you created from experiences
Continue readingHappy Mother’s Day to all Mothers and Daughters!
For me, being a mom is the most challenging and most rewarding endeavor I have ever undertaken. The mother-daughter dynamic is amazing. As linguist Deborah Tannen describes in You’re Wearing THAT? “They
Continue readingHow to Measure Your Progress
Measure your progress by how you are changing your habits, not by the number on the scale. In my home and in my coaching practice, I talk about the idea that our negative patterns are either lines in water,
Continue readingAre You a Mean Dieter?
Are You A Mean Dieter? We hear about mean drunks and happy drunks. I’ve never known any happy dieters, but have known many mean dieters. Thin mean dieters and overweight mean dieters. Both are mostly
Continue readingConflict Avoidance in Marriage–A Sure Road to Unhappiness
Since 1992, I have worked as a mediator helping people to resolve conflict through constructive conversation. As both a mediator and life coach, I help people express and analyze their feelings and look
Continue readingWhat Millennials Want Their Parents To Know About Facebook Etiquette
If you are the parent of a teenager or young adult, you’ve probably noticed how differently each generation uses and expresses itself on social media. Maybe your kids have gotten upset about posts
Continue readingHow to Find Out What is Behind Our Cravings
WANT TO END YOUR CRAVINGS? Why do we have cravings? Why do some people crave new clothes despite a full closet? Why do some people flirt with members of the opposite sex or have affairs when they are happily
Continue readingDo You Find Eating Boring?
DO YOU FIND EATING BORING? Maybe this will sound like a silly question, but most people I know aren’t really paying attention while they are eating. They are usually doing something else.
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