You’re trying to lose weight, maybe for the third time. Or maybe it's the 30th.
But you really want it to be the last time. You’d love to finally put the ka-bosh on weight gain once and for all!
You’ve been down this road before. Started a diet of some kind with the hope that this will finally be the secret sauce you need to reach your goal.
You’re all gung-ho at first. You stay on track for a few days or maybe even a week or two, but then your resolve wanes and suddenly you’re back to eating the way you did that caused you to gain weight in the first place.
I help women lose weight without diets by teaching them how to stop emotional eating so they can enjoy the foods they love while permanently losing their desire to overeat along with their excess weight. In keeping with that non-diet approach, here are some dos and don’ts for staying on track.
1. DO have a very clear and compelling reason for wanting to lose weight. That is what will drive your commitment and motivate you. Know why you want to lose weight, and think about the reason at least once a day, preferably several times.
2. DO think about what the slimmer you will be like and start being that person now. Why put off living your life until you lose weight? What we think, we become! So start thinking, acting and living like the slim person you will become. You deserve to live your best life regardless of size.
3. DO measure your success by markers other than the scale. Permanent weight loss is slow and not always steady. It requires patience and tenacity, and development of new mental habits. Relying on the scale can be discouraging. Focus on your success at changing the habits that will allow you to lose weight and keep it off, and celebrate these accomplishments. For example, if one of the times you overeat is by snacking after dinner, each night that you don’t do that is a win. Enjoy the process!
4. DO think about how great you feel when you don’t overeat. Don’t you just love that wonderful light feeling of stopping before you’re too full? Not having indigestion? That great feeling of keeping your commitment to yourself to improve your health and not overeat? When you’re tempted to keep eating after your body has had enough, remember these feelings and decide that overeating just isn’t worth feeling like crap afterwards.
5. DO focus on the joy of being slimmer compared with the immediate pleasure of eating when you aren’t hungry. When we impulsively wolf down that candy bar, we’re sacrificing the long-term joy of being a healthy weight for the gone-in-a-moment pleasure of the taste in our mouth. Choose long-term joy.
1. DON’T DIET! You’ve heard it a million times. Diets don’t work. At least 95% of people who go on a diet gain the weight back within 2 years and more! Focus on making permanent changes to your eating habits that will allow you to enjoy food without overeating. To learn more about how we can work together to do that, click HERE or join my free Facebook group, Ditch the Diet Tribe.
2. DON’T put any food off limits. When something becomes the proverbial forbidden fruit, you’ll want it that much more, which could cause you to binge on it. It is much better to allow yourself to eat a reasonable serving of your favorite foods mindfully so that you really enjoy them and don’t crave them.
3. DON’T post photos of buff Hollywood stars in bikinis to motivate you. Posting photos on your fridge or anywhere else of women with Photoshopped bodies who do crazy things to stay slim will not help your cause. In fact, there’s research to support that this does not work and actually has a negative effect on your motivation to lose weight.
4. DON’T focus on your past weight loss failures. If you believe you will fail this time, you will surely prove yourself right. Instead, drop those old beliefs. Have a positive outlook for the future. Diets caused you to fail in the past, but this time, you’re approaching weight loss differently, so believe you will succeed and you likely will!
5. DON’T berate yourself when you slip up. We all make mistakes because we’re human. The weight loss path is a winding one. The only way you can fail is by quitting, and slow and steady wins the race. When you overeat, all you need to do is forgive yourself and get back on track by waiting until you’re hungry before eating again.
If you need a little more hand-holding to reach your weight goals, considering working with me. When focus on different skills for changing habits each week, and I coach you through your challenges to develop strategies to conquer them. To learn more, click here.
I'm passionate about helping foodies learn how to drop their excess weight for good without dieting. I help you discover what is really causing your weight problem (it isn't that you love food!), and teach you how to enjoy the foods you love while permanently losing your desire to overeat. I'd love to teach my method to you! I’m also a gourmet cook and baker who struggled with my weight for 40 years before discovering the secret of how to stop emotional eating and overeating. I am a certified life coach, arbitrator and mediator, and I live on the coast of Maine.